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Dealing with a relationship is hard work. Dealing with a “toxic” relationship can take a toll on you. To the point where you lose yourself. The journey to figuring it out can leave you in a very dark place. It takes time to grieve and courage to let go. But when you find yourself again, you will feel the freedom to move forward. It’s a great feeling 🙂
This is the journey I’ve had to take after my ten-year marriage failed. To losing myself from egos and trying to take care of everything and expecting to lead this outward persona that left me empty inside. It was draining and exhausting. Although relationships are work it should not be hard if it’s right. Here are 6 tips that will help you in your journey of finding yourself:
- Accept who you are. Listen, you are not a failure just because your relationships failed. That’s called life’s lessons. Learn from them, get your 5-minute cry out, get yourself together and #levelUp. You are fabulous just the way you are. Starting over may be scary but oh so worth it.
- Stop expecting perfection. Mhm! (I’m talking to myself now) I always expect highly from everyone else but it’s because I put my all. But not everyone is the same or will do the same for you. So, let’s stop looking for perfection and look for progression.
- It’s ok to be selfish. You just have to know when you need your time. It’s not always good to give your all and you don’t give to yourself first.
- The grass is not greener. There’s a saying I learned a few years ago, “if you’re going to copycat, copy the right cat“. Not every relationship or marriage that seems outwardly great is great. Look for those relationships that you know from deep within, have been working truly hard at keeping their relationship going in every area of their lives, and copy that.
- Attract what you want. If you want a peaceful relationship, YOU have to be at peace. If you want a happy relationship, YOU have to be happy from within. Your whole total being has to be right first to attract what you want.
“Once you know true love you will never again be deceived by its counterfeit.”