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What Stands in the Way of You “Still” Being Single?

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Photo by Masaaki Komori on Unsplash

For me, it’s being an observant spectator!

I’ve had very bad luck with relationships, but I am #enough for somebody, so I do still believe in love. I’m an Introverted Latina Woman who happens to be a Scorpio; not a good mix for the woman trying to attract the “perfect” man. Well, there’s goes another reason why I’m still single; the expectancy of having a “perfect” man although there are a lot of great men out there.

It’s been quite a long time that I have been deemed the title of thy queen singleness; I kind of like it. The good thing about being single is my independence. Being introverted causes me to want my moments of space. I can take off at any time and go out with friends or I can just stay home and read a book with my puppy right by my side. Another good thing about being single is not having to decide what to cook when I can just go out and pick up something for myself to eat; although I love to cook for others.

One of the bad things about being single is not having someone to cuddle with; I’m a cuddler. Also, not having someone to share my life lessons and dreams with. There’s nothing better than having intellectual conversations with the opposite sex; that’s a huge turn on for me besides rockstar arms and a defined chest 🙂

Due to the heartbreaks, some worse than others, I have a trust issue with men though it’s rooted from something beyond. Therefore, I observe every little thing which can be annoying and a quick turn off. And I use the word quick in a literal manner. From what you say to what you do, this is all leading to whether I should invest my time or not.  I used to think I was still single because I wasn’t pretty or skinny enough. I was even told by one of my exes that I was not the “ride or die” type; you know someone who is down for whatever no matter what. {red flag} Yeah, I’m not down for ignorance, nor for putting other people before my family. I’m not down for not having goals or a plan to move us forward. I’m not down for that. I’m not down for being stagnant. I’m definitely not down for that. Though I could’ve responded in so many ways to that instead, I walked away. This made me realized that he did not even know what a “ride or die” type really is and just proved the ignorance even more. What I have learned is to not have such high expectations of people who are of low standards but to have high expectations of myself which pushes me to be better every day. I also learned never to settle for less than what I deserve. I know my worth and I know I’m enough not for the perfect one, but for the one perfectly made for me.

“Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships” ~ Stephen Covey

 

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